Sad Things that Are Actually Awesome.

-Written by Brynn Taylor

Call me a weirdo, but I tend to find pleasure in the most painful of things. And before you go all 50 Shades of Grey on me, let me explain what I mean by “painful.”

There’s people who live their lives going through the motions. They don’t want anything bad to happen to them, so they try to keep up appearances and get by, without ever feeling emotional grief.

These people will drink, party, and live life to the fullest, but are they truly getting the “full” experience of what life has to offer?

Generally, when the words “lonely” and “miserable” come to mind, we run away the same way Simba tried to “Hakuna Matata” his way out of all his problems. He didn’t want to face his fears, but when he finally did, look what happened? He became the King and murdered the evil Scar and found out he didn’t kill his dad after all!

Maybe we don’t need to take it to the extreme, but we need sad reminders to truly be able to appreciate life and face our fears. If we never feel loneliness and misery, then we never know what it’s like to be truly happy and reach our full potential.

I think conflict provides us with the greatest life lessons, and opposition teaches us to be open to things we aren’t normally open to.

So, if you are one of those people who likes to run from sad things at all cost, I created a list of sad things that are actually awesome, and if you change your perspective, they can teach you a lot.

Ugly Crying

Tears are your body’s release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety, and frustration.

And it’s actually science. Emotional tears contain stress hormones that are extracted from your body so “ugly crying” has some serious health benefits.

Dr. William Frey at the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis found that emotional tears shed hormones and other toxins which accumulate during stress, as opposed to reflex tears and continuous tears, which clear out toxins from our eyes and keep our eyes lubricated.

Additional studies also suggest that crying stimulates the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killers and “feel-good” hormones.

So grab that pint of Ben and Jerry’s and start thinking of the most depressing things you can think of.

You may think it’s powerful to be macho and send out this faux-bravado. But the ones who aren’t holding it in are even more powerful, because they are both happy and healthy.

Sad Movies

Sad movies with the most heart wrenching endings are my favorite kinds of movies. This goes hand in hand with crying, because let’s face it; sad movies and sad songs really know how to bring out the waterworks, leave you feeling refreshed and alive (because endorphins!).

I always joke around that I hate happy movies where everything works out perfectly and everyone is happy at the end because NOTHING REAL EVEN HAPPENS. And that’s not because I have no soul; it’s because I have too much soul. 

Plus, hating happy movies is an exaggeration… I’m not a psychopath. I just feel so much better after I watch something that makes me cry and something I can relate to. For example, when I watch movies where people are in love and things go terribly wrong, then I can say HEY! That happens to me all the time!

I think we can all agree, movies where everything goes right are boring.

Third-Wheeling

Sorry to literally all my exes, but the best dates I’ve ever been on are the ones that I technically wasn’t invited to.

Well, not that I’m not invited, but the dates where there’s that sad connotation when my friend has to say, “Well maybe ‘so and so’ can bring his friend so it’s not awkward!”

Let me stop you there. MAKE IT AWKWARD.

I’d so much rather the awkwardness of feeling a tinge of loneliness, than that of being stuck wondering if somebody likes me.

Plus, I love feeling awkward. In fact, I would say that’s how I feel 99% of the time.

Feeling uncomfortable is great because I learn so much about how to handle myself in every situation. And as an added bonus, I learn a lot about relationships by observing my friends who are in actual happy ones.

I feel like third-wheeling not only makes you a better partner in life, but it makes you a better person, because it means you are open to more experiences, no matter how “out of your comfort zone” they are.

People Getting Married or Engaged When You’re Single

Okay, so why is this on the list? Isn’t marriage a happy time? Well, yes, but not when you’re single AF.

I’ll admit, sometimes I make little jabs at engaged and married women. And we all see those passive aggressive tweets about how much we hate people showing off their babies and engagement rings, because, well, it’s kind of annoying.

But I have to say, that since I’ve been through my past break up, seeing people with babies and engagement rings has become my favorite part of the day.

There’s so much negativity out there, we shouldn’t hate on something that’s actually meant to be positive.

And plus, seeing proposal videos and people in love makes me say, “that will be me some day.” And even better, it makes me say, “Thank GOD I’m not with my ex anymore, because THIS is what happiness is supposed to look like.”

So continue with those posts ladies, because us sad, hopeless, and single women secretly love it; but don’t tell anybody.

Getting Dumped

So now that all my exes hate me, I do have to say that getting dumped by them has truly been awesome.

The most awesome part of getting dumped is being able to rebuild as a bigger and stronger person.

If I was never dumped, I would still be little, 17-year-old version of me and that girl needed a serious reality check.

I wouldn’t be the person I am today if I got everything I ever wanted at the time. And I actually realized that I don’t want those things anymore.

Sometimes it takes being completely low, to feel life’s greatest highs.

So remember on your saddest days, that sad things are actually awesome, because they make the NOT sad things, even more awesome.